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I found a interestion thing on hypnosis on bondage.com I thought I would re-post it here

Dec 05, 2003 : Spell-Bound

by Baadmaster and Naia

Dear Mistress Naia: My new Master tries to use hypnosis in my training, but I�m consciously aware of everything and not "asleep." To please him, I "pretend" and act-out what he thinks he�s programmed me to do or feel. But I feel like I�m deceiving him by role-playing when he thinks I�m under his "spell." Should I fess up or just enjoy the play?

This is a complex and interesting situation. There are many challenging issues at play with one another here: the reality of hypnosis, the dynamic of control within your M/s relationship, and the importance of honest communication.

Hypnosis

The power of hypnosis is intricately entwined with the power of belief. To be hypnotized is to truly be under someone�s spell. It�s often said that in order for hypnosis to work, the hypno-tee must first believe in the reality of the hypnosis, itself. In this sense, hypnosis is a direct parallel to Master/slave relationships. To experience a true D/s dynamic, both parties must fully believe in their role: in their Dominance or submission.

Certainly there are those who insist that they were initially skeptical about hypnosis. They sat in the audience at some hypnotist show, certain that the fools on stage were paid-off or just attention-seekers. They watched in disbelief -- until they, themselves, were made to cluck like a chicken... or so the story goes. Yet I insist that belief is the key to successful hypnosis. Belief is the key to power. Belief is the key to Control. Regardless of how your Master chooses to train you, it will only succeed if you are a believer. It doesn�t matter if you appear to be under his spell - that is meaningless. What matters is whether your submission is real.

So: Do you believe in your Master�s power to control you?

Control

Control is not easy. It�s not a given that a Dom/me will be in control, no matter how much he or his slave wants it. Control, like trust, is something that�s earned. It will grow with your relationship, as you get to know each other, as you test each other�s loyalty, and as you have more M/s experiences with each other.

I don�t know if your new relationship is a 24/7 one. Whether it is or not, it�s important that you both give the relationship time to develop before you expect all of the chips to fall into place. It is unrealistic to think that a new control can be a complete control. Perhaps your Master�s control over you is a bud that can only bloom once your trust in each other grows. This may not be the appropriate time in your relationship to test that control with hypnosis.

Honest Communication

No matter what the structure of your M/s relationship, it should encourage your feedback. If you and your Master are just starting to build a life together, your input should be valuable to him. It�s the only way to construct a dynamic that will work for you both. Hypnosis is not the only training method. If it�s not currently working, you need to discuss this with your Master - so he can find something that will.

Though I understand your reasons for wanting to respond positively to your training, the tactic will backfire in the long run. The more you "pretend," the less he�ll learn about what you really need. The longer this deception continues, the less likely your relationship will be to grow and last. Good intentions or no, if your D/s foundation is marked by dishonesty, the relationship that grows from that foundation ultimately will be unfulfilling.

It would be much easier to say: Go ahead and just keep enjoying your play. But the risk is greater than it sounds. The harder path in the short-term will create a much stronger bond for the two of you in the long-term. Explain your intentions to your Master, so you can find a real solution together - a form of training that works for you both, which does not require you to deceive him or yourself.

Good luck on your path to becoming truly spell-bound!

Be good.

-Naia

Dear BaadMaster: I'm a TV, and have been contemplating hypnosis as a way of deepening my femininity. But can a Domme submit herself to the power of a hypnotist without becoming a sub? And would it deepen my femininity anyway? Locating and affording this service is also an issue. Please advise me!

As a certified clinical hypnotherapist, licensed to practice in California, let me first clear up some misconceptions about hypnosis before I get to your question. Contrary to myth, hypnosis only works when the subject wants to do what the hypnotist suggests. For example, at the beginning of a session, the hypnotherapist usually asks the subject to close his/her eyes, fold her hands, and then stand on her head. (This is called "pre-induction" for the students among you.) Typically, the subject complies with the first two requests but refuses to perform the third. Why? Because the subject will only do things she really wants to do. And she didn�t want to stand on her head. The subject who quacks like a duck during a stage hypnotist�s show does so because he really wants the attention. Ask that same person to rob a bank and he will snap out of hypnosis or simply refuse. That�s why "quitting smoking with hypnosis" does not work for everyone. There are people who, for whatever reason, do not truly want to stop smoking. For them, hypnosis is useless and will not work.

Let us extrapolate this information to answer one part of your question. If you do not truly desire to be a submissive, you cannot be hypnotized into becoming one -- any more than you can be hypnotized into becoming a bank robber. So your worry about becoming a submissive is unfounded.

The bigger problem you might encounter is that your Domme side might prevent you from being hypnotized. Part of the process of hypnosis is giving mental control over to your hypnotist. If you always need to be in control, you could be in that significant percentage of people who simply cannot be hypnotized. There are "suggestibility tests" that a skilled hypnotherapist will immediately perform on you that will determine how good a subject you will be - before you spend a lot of time or money on any sessions. Thus, if you cannot be hypnotized, you will know it pretty fast.

Assuming that you are a good subject, a professional can contribute to deepening your femininity. As we all have both masculine and feminine elements within us, hypnosis can help bring out a feminine side of you that might be buried in your mind. In addition, since you are a transvestite, your desire-level to bring out your feminine side would appear very high.

I have seen - in hypnosis stage shows - heterosexual men in hypnosis act incredibly feminine. (The suggestion, "Act like Marilyn Monroe," can produce amazing stage results!) If this can be brought out in straight men, imagine what might happen with someone who is a transvestite! The results could be quite extraordinary. I personally am not familiar with using hypnosis for this purpose, but it would appear to have incredible potential.

The only down side is that you should not expect instant miracles from hypnosis. It tends to work incrementally. A hypnotherapist cannot simply give a subject a suggestion to "become more feminine" and watch him become a sex goddess. This is behavior modification we are talking about, which takes time and a skillful practitioner to accomplish.

The best way to find such a practitioner is to:

1. Search for a member of the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis at their website, www.asch.net

2. Look for a member of the American Board of Hypnotherapy, whose members can be found at http://www.hypnosis.com/abh/abh.html

3.Find a member of the National Board for Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists at www.natboard.com/consumer.html

As to cost, I caution against bargain-basement hypnotherapy. Stick with members of the three aforementioned societies. Remember, it is your brain you are dealing with. Last I looked, you only have one of them!

Play hard, play safe

BaadMaster